Write, think about what we want in our relationship, our family.
Establishing the framework (our limits) within which we wish to evolve allows for harmony, respect for our passions/achievements... and lots of laughter!
Have meetings with yourself and/or with loved ones and validate your happiness.
Because feeling fulfilled and valued opens us up to our life.
And then harmonizing our passions with our life as a couple or family happens naturally.
Conversation with Luc Doyon about conciliation (episode 13 of Vive).
Observation: emotional exchanges are becoming poorer in couples and families.
Balance is not about always being on the sunny side, it's about being able to go to the shady side and be relatively comfortable.
How to remain whole, while living your life, while being a couple, a family?
Stop and question yourself.
We are the role models for our children. If the couple gets along well, talks, the child learns that... the opposite is also true. Besides, passion is just as much learned!
Preserve the pleasure: a passion "must" remain exciting (and not agitating)! So it mobilizes other forms of energy which will enrich it.
What is interesting is that when there is love in the couple, the family and one being has a passion, the others will support and wish for its expansion!
If there is dependence in the family or couple unit, as soon as one of its members has a passion, jealousy, hatred and resentment set in!
These are important clues to confirm that we are in the right place or to help us move towards our ideal.
A few tips in this adventure: leave problems, annoyances and work at the door (unless of course you need to talk about it, but don't bombard the other person with negativity!); get off your cell phones and media to be with them ; and above all, don't take yourself too seriously!
To read and reflect on soon: the beauty of women, discussions with Danièle Starenkyj ("What a woman's heart wants"), "finding yourself beautiful in the eyes of someone who loves you" ...
Photo credit, Benoit Guérin for Vive
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